Dad and Assisted Living

Having just called our referral agent on Monday with more details of Dad’s finances, she hit the ground running and by that afternoon she had two assisted living communities for my Step-Mom and brother to look at on Tuesday.

They really liked one of the two feeling it was a good fit for my Dad, my brother said he’d like to show it to Dad.  Yesterday Dad went willingly and liked it from the moment they drove in.  They looked around, viewed a studio apartment and ones a little larger than a studio.  He said he only needed a studio; he liked it so much there he put down a deposit on a studio apartment!  He even wrote his own check.  The apartment he had looked at already had a deposit on it but was canceled yesterday.

As of yesterday Dad has two weeks left at rehab, so I am grateful he has a place to look forward to.

But, I’m still having difficulty accepting my Step-Mom would not allow him back in the house unless he could take care of himself.  She adamantly refused having in-home care.  She told me on the phone last night she’d said to her granddaughter that she felt she was burying him and how difficult a decision this is for her.  I did not know what to say.

Having time to digest and sleep on that unsettling conversation, my first thought this morning was my Dad would NEVER do the same thing to her.  He would adapt and do what was best for her.

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TBI x3, that's me! If you had a Traumatic Brain Injury (or Injuries!) and knew you might not remember dates, events, people, etc., would you live each day differently? Would you give more, forgive more, heal more? I am. The statistics for me developing Dementia or Alzheimer's is a high possibility - one, because of the TBIs, and two - because I'm genetically predisposed. Come with me as this present moment is all we know we have... Wishing you all the best - today & always. Blessings, Love & Peace, RH
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6 Responses to Dad and Assisted Living

  1. i’m thinking if she can be nasty that it might be best for him to go where he is going…his is certain to get good care then

    • Thanks so much for sharing, that’s a really good point. All that matters to me is that he is happy where ever he is and that he gets the best care.

      I am gaining the perspective that no matter what the circumstances, people can still have a good life. We really do get caught up thinking that life ends while we’re still here!

      Such a good reminder to let her own her stuff and be at peace with what I can and cannot do.

      Thank you, see, you helped me too! 🙂 Paybacks! 🙂

  2. He’s probably going to get better care where he’s going than at home. and that’s a good thing. Sounds like, in her mind, she’s already made decisions about his future. Unfortunately, but her loss. take care of you in this stressful time.

    • Thanks so much, Louise, I always appreciate your perspective and insight.

      I really don’t need to get involved in anyone else’s drama nor do I need to understand or accept everything in order to live with integrity and no regret. I admire your keen gift of insight. Thank you again.

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