Richard came up with an excellent analogy of my Brain Injury, the important role home plays, and what happens when people stay in our house. This is how he explained it:
Home is my solar panel where I plug in, recharge, and rest. When I am at home, the peace, stability, quiet, and my ability to control stimuli provide me the energy I need to go out into the community. I know just how much energy I have when I leave to go to the grocery store, library, or where ever. When it starts to wane, I have to head back home immediately to recharge. When I have visitors, however, THEY unplug my solar panel and I never get to recharge.
This analogy will help set parameters about how much face-time I can afford before causing myself harm. Setting clear boundaries is vital, I’ve learned if people can’t or won’t respect your boundaries, it says a lot about the health and strength of the relationship and will be reevaluated.